Kids are in a devastating emotional state! Most come to school emotionally and are unavailable for learning,VICTORIA, a known friend contributes the factors of our modern lifestyle which contribute to this and proudly is seeing widespread and asked her share thoughts on this.Every parent cares about the future of their children should read this and should ensure that child hears to this message She quoted that" I am an occupational therapist with years of experience working with children, parents, and teachers. I completely agree with this teacher's message that our children are getting worse and worse in many aspects"
The reasons are below Why Children Do Not Have Any Motivation In Their Life And Remain Dull?
Pampering children reduces motivation in children
Children get what they want when they want it. Children are given attention all the time like if the kid says I am bored, parents immediately says Use my phone. Parents always do their best to keep their children happy and end up making them miserable in long term. Parents should develop the ability of delay gratification to their children ,that is making their kid hear "No" or delay in giving what they want rather than giving them right away because nowadays, children are gradually becoming less equipped to deal with even minor stress which eventually will become huge obstacles to their success in life.
Technology reduces motivation in children
Limited Social Interaction in children as we know all are busy and we end up giving digital gadgets to our children and make children busy too rather than motivating to go out and play in natural environment and learn social skills. Technology unfortunately have replaced the outdoor games, reduced parent interaction with their kid and socially interact with other children. Children Brain is like a muscle and can be trained and teach something new to them like riding a bike, teach them to wait to develop patience in them and make them interact with others to develop social skills.
Not using time efficiently reduces children creativity
Endless Fun for children that we have created an artificial fun world for our children and they are no dull moments in them and keep them entertained all the time because we think if we don't entertain them we are not doing our parenting duty properly. Instead of making our children helping us in laundry or tidy their room as we all know this is basic work that trains their brain to be workable and function instead of boredom which will help them do any work at school like practicing handwriting instead of complaining that the work is boring.
Wrong parenting technique reduces motivation in children
Technology Parents do use technology as a free babysitting service for children but it is not free and payment just keep waiting just around the corner and end up paying for their children nervous system, attention and delay in teaching them the ability of gratification .In fact, compared to virtual reality, everyday life becomes boring for kids. Technology also disconnects children emotionally from their families. Parents available emotionally is the main nutrient for any children brain development. Unfortunately, due to technology we are gradually depriving our children of that nutrient.
Children rule the world
Children rule the world Kids does not like to have vegetables, go to bed early, dress up on their own or to play with their toys instead find the digital device like iPad more comforting by this practice they learn they can do what they want and not do what they don't want. The concept of "need to do" becomes absent, Kids very well know that what they need to do but find it very hard time doing what is necessary to achieve their goal. This results in unattainable goals and makes the kid feel disappointment.
TRAIN THEIR BRAIN TO INCREASE MOTIVATION IN CHILDREN
You can make a difference in your children life by training your children brain so that your children will successfully function on social, emotional, and academic levels. Here is how:
Don’t be afraid to set the limits. children need limits to grow happy, healthy and increasing motivation in children
Make a schedule for meal times, sleep times, technology time for children.
Think of what is GOOD for children- not what they WANT/DON’T WANT. They are going to thank you for that later on in life. Parenting is a hard job. You need to be creative to make them do what is good for children because, most of the time, that is the exact opposite of what children want.
children need breakfast and nutritious food. They need to spend time outdoor and go to bed at a consistent time in order to come to school available for learning the next day!
Convert things that they don’t like doing/trying into fun, emotionally stimulating games with children.
Limit technology, and re-connect with your children emotionally increases motivation in children
Surprise children with flowers, share a smile, tickle them, put a love note in their backpack or under their pillow, surprise them by taking them out for lunch on a school day, dance together, crawl together, have pillow fights
Have family dinners, board game nights (see the list of my favorite board games), go biking, go to outdoor walks with a flashlight in the evening with children.
Train delay gratification increases motivation in children
Make children wait!!! It is OK to have “I am bored“ time – this is the first step to creativity with children
Gradually increase the waiting time between “I want” and “I get”
Avoid technology use in cars and restaurants, and instead teach them waiting while talking and playing games Limit constant snacking.
Teach your children to do monotonous work from early years as it is the foundation for future “WORKABILITY” of children
make children Fold laundry, tidying up toys, hanging clothes, unpacking groceries, setting the table, making lunch, unpacking their lunch box, making their bed
Be creative with children. Initially make it stimulating and fun so that their brain associates it with something positive with children.