Kids now a days have a lot in their mind but are unable to speak it out because of the fear of making their parents upset this could affect them and make them more orthodox and harder for them to open up, this is why as parents we need to understand them and should support them so that a trust can be build up and are open and are ready to share their problems.
- Disagreement is not the same thing as disrespect.
Many of the kids interviewed say that their parents usually see any deviation from their rules or even preferences as disrespectful. Every person has their own way of thinking and their own ideas which may differ from yours, if your kid doesn’t think like you or have different ideas don’t think he is trying to disrespect you, he is just speaking what came in his mind. You should encourage your kids to do that so that you can correct them when they are wrong and correct yourself when you have made a mistake.
- Kids don’t need to be told they’re the best.
Parents … have an emotional investment in their children, so whatever they do becomes the best, and the children also start overestimating themselves in the same way but the kids actually dont enjoy this inflated perspective. They want to be viewed more realistically and have their parents see them as who they really are — not as who they wish they were.
- Parents should get feedback too.
Growing up is a period of constant assessment when everyone older than a child — parents, siblings, teachers and authority figures — freely volunteers their opinions about how that young person is doing but parents don’t receive all this feedback, and they’d like to be asked for some. This makes kids feel things to be unfair and makes them unhappy and ignored this is why we should always encourage our kids to give feedback and correct ourselves
- Mothers and fathers shouldn’t get so fixated on results.
Parents love outcomes. Not only outcomes; they love all the measurable outcomes. This makes the children feel pressured by their parents. Emphasis on grades, prizes, medals, game scores and school admittances — especially when it’s in a sport, subject or interest the kids pursued because of their parents and not because of their own interest. kids like their intentions and efforts to be noticed and valued, even when the outcomes aren’t noteworthy.